Hey I'm glad you decided to join my group from your phone. Here are some secret tactics to help you get your ex back.
If you've just gone through a breakup, whether it was a mutual understanding or you simply just got dumped because 'They needed more space', then there is a crucial first step that you must take if you want to have any chance of rekindling your romance. This step will go against all of your natural instincts but trust me it WILL work.
Your natural first instinct will be to start calling, texting, or writing notes to your ex telling them how much you miss him or her, what a big mistake they made, etc. You might have even considered threatening them if they don't reconsider. This type of behavior will only serve to push him or her further and further away to the point that they will totally avoid you and reaffirm their decision to break up with you. What you need to do is change your behavior to pull your ex back instead of push them away.
People do not like clingy, desperate, or crazy acting ex boyfriends or girlfriends! I had to go through several boyfriends and breakups before I realized this fundamental truth about relationships.
If you're already guilty of text harassment or 'Drunk Dialing' don't worry you can still use this strategy.
What you need to do is contact them in some way and say 'Listen, you know what, you were right and breaking up was the absolute right thing to do. I have been acting just kind of crazy lately and I am sorry that things didn't work out between us and I wish you nothing but the best.'
Do not tell them 'I hope that we can still be friends'. Just write him or her a handwritten letter(no texts or emails) and state that you are agreeing with the breakup. People always want what they can't have and if you change your mindset in their eyes by agreeing with the breakup they will naturally be curious about your sudden change in behavior. Most likely he or she will be thinking that you may have found someone else.
Here is the most important part of this tactic and it may be hard for you but you have to do it. After you have written your letter, Stop any and all contact! Don't text or call to make sure he or she got your letter. Don't have any contact with them whatsoever. If you see your ex out just ignore them or better yet give him or her a simple smile and turn away. This tactic will really peak their curiosity and he or she will begin to think about you in a totally different way and will soon start to miss you and want you back.
Some breakups really are for the best and if your ex doesn't begin to show any interest after a few weeks then you should probably consider moving on. I have found however that this tactic works very well even if you think there is no hope at all.
Give it a try, I promise you will be amazed by the results.
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